“You have to want more for the other person than you want for yourself,” says Barbara Menendez. The former member of local ’80s band the Cold pours me a cup of coffee in her kitchen around the corner from the Prytania Theater. She doesn’t ask if I take cream or sugar, only “How much do you want?” It is obvious from her and husband Ray Ganucheau’s smiles that coffee is one of the things that have ke...